What does “filling your childs emotional cup” and “good enough” parenting mean?
Secure attachment and Circle of Security Program.
Circle of Security Parenting program is an 8-week program that is informed by decades of robust attachment research. The program helps parents to respond to their child’s emotions, not just the behaviour the child is displaying, this makes it a unique parenting program and the one that Family Court of WA recommends for parents.
Circle of Security helps parents identify what they are seeing in their children and then helps them learn how to respond to what they see, so their child has her/his emotional needs met and as they grow up they learn to identify what they are feeling and how to manage their feelings.
The program is designed for caregivers (parents, foster parents, legal guardians, grandparents) of children aged 6 months to 8 years. However, Circle of Security has also been adapted for older children and even teenagers, so no matter the age of your child/ren, it is never too late to learn Circle of Security.
Circle of Security Parenting is being a “Good Enough” parent.
Circle of Security believes in ‘Good enough” parenting, there is no such thing as perfect parenting. The good news is research shows us it is NEVER TOO LATE to start parenting to facilitate secure attachment. Our children may take a little time to respond as they become used to the new way you start to parent, however, once the children know this new way is permanent, they trust it and you and respond with significant improvements for them and you.
So, what is Secure Attachment and how can you do it?
A securely attached child is a happy, trusting and confident one who feels safe and supported to explore their world and feels welcomed and delighted in when they come back to the safety you provide them. Circle of Security refer to this as going out on the top of the circle and coming back in on the bottom of the circle.
Caregivers learn how to be Bigger, Stronger, Wiser and Kind. How to follow their child whenever they can and take charge when necessary. These concepts support our children exploring and supports them to return and “fill their emotional cup” as they need to.
Good enough parenting helps our children to identify and talk about their feelings and helps caregivers learn how to be with their children when they have big emotions. When we can be with our children and take delight in them FOR WHO THEY ARE NOT WHAT THEY DO, they feel loved and valued.
Deborah is a private practitioner and is unable to provide creche facilities. Group programs run for 2hrs each session for 8 weeks and the cost includes all materials and light refreshments.