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Dealing With a Breakup

Are you currently dealing with a breakup? Or maybe you’re breaking up with someone you love?

Relationships end for all sorts of reasons and it can be hard to accept it and move on. However, there are lots of positive steps that you can take to ensure that you deal with a breakup in a healthy and constructive way, and you might even learn something that you can take into future relationships. If you’re looking for tips for getting over a breakup, read our advice.

What can cause a Relationship Breakup?

There are many reasons why relationships can end and often it is not the fault of either person. Whether a relationship has broken up after many years, or after a short time, there are some common reasons why couples decide to no longer continue their relationship.

You’re not on the same page

For a relationship to be successful in the long term, each person needs to agree on certain key values or the direction they want to head in life. If you are your partner don’t agree on major issues such as whether you want children, where you want to live, or how to manage shared finances, it can cause a strain on the relationship that is often difficult to resolve.

You struggle to communicate

Clear communication is the key to any healthy relationship. If this has been lost, or if it never existed in the first place, this can cause a relationship to break down. Communication is what allows you to develop trust, show affection and express your views and desires. When this is missing, the relationship cannot succeed.

You’re experiencing a lack of or loss of intimacy

All relationships will have peaks and troughs when it comes to physical intimacy and sex, but if you feel that you no longer have any kind of intimacy with your partner, it can be a problem for your relationship. All relationships require an intimidate connection to flourish in the longer term.

You’re dealing with a significant challenge

There are many challenges in life that can put a strain on a relationship. Unfortunately, sometimes couples break up from the stress of these situations. This can include challenges such as the loss of a loved one, infertility issues, health problems and more.

You’ve experienced infidelity

Affairs are one of the leading causes of relationship breakups. Although it is possible to repair a relationship after an incident of infidelity, many couples find this too difficult. Affairs can cause insecurity, betrayal and a loss of trust within a couple.

Tips for Dealing with a Breakup

Getting over a breakup is hard. It’s important to remember that it is normal to feel sad, lonely, angry or frustrated when a romantic relationship ends. However, these feelings will not last forever. Take some time to prioritise yourself and the other relationships in your life, and make sure that you are fully supported during this time.

Keep busy with friends and family

When you are in a romantic relationship, you often spend a large amount of your time with that person. When the relationship ends, you can feel at a loss and like you have nothing to do, which can cause feelings of sadness and despair. Keep yourself busy by planning social events with family and friends. Catching up with other people who love you will make you feel supported and appreciated.

Spend time doing things you love

Do you have a hobby or interest that your ex-partner wasn’t into? Now is the perfect time to devote plenty of energy to this. Do the things you love the most, whether that is relaxing at home and watching a movie or going on a hike.

Get plenty of sleep and exercise

Staying healthy is the key to maintaining a positive mindset during a challenging time in your life. After a breakup, it can be tempting to eat unhealthy food, stay up late and neglect your usual exercise routine. However, you will feel much better if you make good diet and lifestyle choices.

Avoid alcohol and drugs

You may feel like drinking to excess or using drugs to numb the pain of your breakup experience. But the after-effects of these will leave you feeling much worse.

Seek out comfort and Support

In most cases, there will be a reason why your relationship ended. Try to remind yourself that it wasn’t right for you and focus on the parts of your life that bring you comfort and support, I such as your friends, family, career, interests and more. It is better to not be in a relationship than to be in an unhappy one. As painful as it is, this event can also teach you a lot about yourself and what you want in future romantic partnerships.

Counselling after a break up can help you to grieve, learn from the break up and eventually move on and be ready to meet some one else. To find out more, please contact us for a discussion.

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